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Caring Words to Speak


 

What To Say When Your Friend Is Hurting

Rarely do we mean to wound, or offend by the words we speak- but, it happens. Here are some suggestions for sensitive, caring words to share:

I’m so sorry. I’m sorry that you are having to go through this experience. I’m sorry for your loss.

I know this is very difficult for you.

I care about you.

I want to hear, whatever you want to share with me.

I haven’t been through an experience like this. Would you help me to understand how you feel?

I know that God is holding your face in His great hands, and kissing you tenderly.

Don’t run away from your pain, lean into it.

Tears are a gift from God meant to soothe and cleanse your hurting soul.

It’s hard to know what to do, isn’t it. Why don’t you, “Start by doing what is necessary, then do what is possible. Suddenly you are doing the impossible.” (St. Francis of Assisi)

Endurance is not just the ability to bear a hard thing, but to turn it into glory. (William Barclay)

Suffering is not a weapon, it is a tool used by a master craftsman, God, to fashion, manage, mold your life. (Florence Littauer)

The Father has not lost track of your circumstances, even though they seem to be swirling out of control. He is there. Hold on to your faith in the midst of these unanswered questions. Someday His purposes will be known, and you will have an eternity to talk it over. In the meantime, I pray that the Lord will help you cope with this tragic loss of, or should I say temporary separation from, your partner and friend. (Dr. James Dobson)

I believe in you and in your ability to get through this...

What you are feeling is normal.

God is not a disinterested observer. He's not just looking on. He is involved.

God gives us time and space to work through the complexities of life.

Don't beat yourself up over this, o.k.?

What can I do to encourage you this week?

We're in this together. You're not alone.

Be gentle with yourself as you go through this. Grieving is hard work.

God is big enough, and strong enough to care for you.

This must be so painful for you. I want to help you hurt.

You’re doing a much job than you are giving yourself credit for!”

You're in my prayers.

I don’t know what to say, but I care.

I've been thinking about you.

Call me anytime. If you need me, I'll come over.

We love you!

Just coming by to make sure you're alright!

It hurts, doesn't it?

What you are feeling is normal.

What you need is a shoulder, not a sermon.

May I pray with you?

by Ronda Knuth
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